Bir kelebe\u011fin kanat \u00e7\u0131rp\u0131n\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 duyuyordu. Kalbinin hassasiyetini bir kez daha yoklad\u0131; \u00e7ok incinmi\u015f, k\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. \u201c\u015e\u00fckredecek neyim kalm\u0131\u015ft\u0131 ki\u201d diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyordu g\u00f6zleri bu\u011fulan\u0131rken. Yine bir hatas\u0131nda kendini su\u00e7lam\u0131\u015f, kendine dair ne varsa yakm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Bu y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc hi\u00e7 sevmezdi, yine kendine merhamet edemeyen yan\u0131yla y\u00fczle\u015fiyordu. San\u0131r\u0131m daha \u00e7ok kalbini teselli etmeye, daha \u00e7ok incinen kendisine sar\u0131lmaya ihtiyac\u0131 vard\u0131. Herkese verdi\u011fi \u00f6nceli\u011fi kendisine veremedi\u011fi ger\u00e7e\u011fiyle y\u00fczle\u015fmek zorundayd\u0131. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131ndan bekledi\u011fi ilgiyi, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclmeyi, kendisi i\u00e7in yapmay\u0131 unutmu\u015ftu. Bu y\u00fczden durdu, kendine \u00f6d\u00fcl olarak verdi\u011fi nefes egzersizini, kahvesini beklerken yapmak istedi. Yasemin kokusunu severdi, derinlemesine i\u00e7ine \u00e7ekti; o kokuyu be\u015f dakika v\u00fccudunda bekletip yava\u015f\u00e7a vermeyi be\u015f kez tekrarlad\u0131. Yasemin kokusu olmasa bile rahatlat\u0131c\u0131yd\u0131, i\u015fte o kadar rahatlam\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Gelen kahvenin kokusu onu ger\u00e7ek hayata geri d\u00f6nd\u00fcrd\u00fc. Zihnindeki sorular\u0131 tek tek cevaplayarak i\u00e7 sesini kaleme ald\u0131.<\/p>\n
Sevgili Kendim,<\/em><\/p>\n Unutma! Her insan gibi senin de hayat\u0131nda zorlu zamanlar olacak. Bu zorlu zamanlarda h\u00fcz\u00fcnl\u00fc, de\u011fersiz, ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z, ac\u0131 \u00e7eken biri gibi hissedebilirsin. Seni b\u00f6yle hissettiren duygularla nas\u0131l ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilemiyor, olumsuz duygular\u0131 bast\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor olabilirsin. Normal hayat\u0131n\u0131n ak\u0131\u015f\u0131na yay\u0131lan olumsuz duygular\u0131 bast\u0131rmaya g\u00fcc\u00fcn yetmeyince \u00f6fkeyle, k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131kla m\u00fccadele etmeye kalk\u0131\u015fabilirsin. Oysa biten pilin seni k\u0131s\u0131r d\u00f6ng\u00fcden kurtarmaya yetmeyecek; bu d\u00f6ng\u00fcy\u00fc uzatarak seni daha da bitkin hale getirecektir.<\/p>\n T\u00fcm bunlarla m\u00fccadele ederken, e\u011fer \u015fansl\u0131ysan, seni anl\u0131k hazza ula\u015ft\u0131racak, duygular\u0131n\u0131 anl\u0131k bast\u0131racak olan ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n a\u011f\u0131na tak\u0131lmam\u0131\u015f olacaks\u0131n. Ama \u015fansl\u0131ysan… \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc g\u00fcn ge\u00e7tik\u00e7e daha az eforla hazz\u0131 yakalaman\u0131n cazibesi art\u0131yor.<\/p>\n Sevgili Kendim,<\/em><\/p>\n Hayat\u0131n kolayl\u0131k ve zorluklarla, ini\u015fli \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015fl\u0131 yollarla, olumlu ve olumsuz duygularla seyretti\u011fi ger\u00e7e\u011fine t\u00fcm insanl\u0131k \u015fahit. Anl\u0131k kurtar\u0131c\u0131lardan \u201cart\u0131k yoruldum\u201d dedi\u011fini duyar gibiyim. Sana sar\u0131lmal\u0131y\u0131m\u2026<\/p>\n \u0130nsanlar da, zamanlar da, mek\u00e2nlar da hep ge\u00e7ici. Ge\u00e7icili\u011fine ra\u011fmen bir hatan\u0131n denizinde seni bo\u011fmak yerine \u015fefkatle sana sar\u0131l\u0131p ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n durumu anlamland\u0131rabilmek bizim elimizde. Varl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 oldu\u011fum gibi kabul edebilmek, \u201cama\u201dlar\u0131n, \u201cke\u015fke\u201dlerin g\u00f6lgesinden \u00e7\u0131kabilmek bizim elimizde. G\u00fcne\u015fin, r\u00fczg\u00e2r\u0131n, suyun, topra\u011f\u0131n tad\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u0131karabilmek bizim elimizde. Ak\u0131nt\u0131ya kar\u015f\u0131 y\u00fczmek de, ak\u0131nt\u0131yla birlikte y\u00fczmek de bizim elimizde.<\/p>\n Affedebilmek de\u2026 \u00d6yle de\u011fil mi sence de? \u0130zole edip bizi cezaland\u0131rmak yerine; insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n ortak deneyimi gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek; m\u00fccadele etmek yerine mant\u0131kl\u0131 bir bilin\u00e7le ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kmak daha iyi olmaz m\u0131yd\u0131? B\u00eetap d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015f olan enerjimizi yeniden ye\u015fertemez miydik? Pozitif d\u00fcnyan\u0131n temellerini sevgili kendim; senden ba\u015flayarak atamaz m\u0131yd\u0131m?<\/p>\n Bu durumu varl\u0131\u011f\u0131ma, \u00f6z\u00fcme \u015fefkatli olmakla de\u011fi\u015ftirebilirim. Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m duyguyu fark edebilir; onunla m\u00fccadele etmek yerine anlamland\u0131rmay\u0131 tercih edebilirim. Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m duygular\u0131 insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n ortak deneyimi olarak d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp, sana zulmetmenin \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7ebilirim. Duygular\u0131n ak\u0131\u015f\u0131na izin verip onlarla kucakla\u015fabilirim. Kusursuzlu\u011fun tek bir yarat\u0131c\u0131ya has oldu\u011funu akl\u0131mdan \u00e7\u0131karmayabilirim. \u00d6nce kalbimde yer alan merhamet duygusunu canland\u0131r\u0131p o halkaya \u00f6nce seni dahil edebilirim. Sana merhametimin, \u015fefkatimin, affedi\u015fimin \u00e7ok olmas\u0131 ile ba\u015flamal\u0131y\u0131m yolculu\u011fa. \u00dczerime zaman zaman gelen d\u00fcnyay\u0131 sakinlikle kar\u015f\u0131layabilmeli, seni kabul\u00fcm\u00fcn emaresini t\u00fcm d\u00fcnyaya hissettirebilmeliyim. Olaylar, olgular, deneyimler, travmalar; benim onlar\u0131 nas\u0131l anlamland\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m ger\u00e7e\u011fi ile varlar. Ve bunu hi\u00e7 yitirmemeliyim.<\/p>\n Sevgili Kendim,<\/em><\/p>\n B\u00fct\u00fcn k\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z, var oldu\u011fumuz gibi sevilmememizin hissiyat\u0131\u2026 Ya da hatalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 bizi engelleyen prangalar gibi g\u00f6rmemizden kaynaklan\u0131yor. Art\u0131k kalkal\u0131m ve yol alal\u0131m. T\u00fcm ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131zla ve hatalar\u0131m\u0131zla bir b\u00fct\u00fcn olarak kabul edip, ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00f6\u011fretilerle yol alman\u0131n vakti geldi. Onlar\u0131 yolda\u015f\u0131m\u0131z olarak kabul edip yolda olman\u0131n ve ilerlemenin hazz\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015famak bizim elimizde. Bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te varl\u0131\u011f\u0131ma, \u00f6z\u00fcme \u015fefkatimi eksik etmemenin, \u015fefkat halkas\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7 noktas\u0131n\u0131 seni eylemenin vakti\u2026 Sen de unutma; \u201cinsan olabilmenin ve kalabilmenin\u201d mihenk ta\u015f\u0131; sana, varl\u0131\u011f\u0131ma, \u00f6z\u00fcme olan \u015fefkatimdir.<\/p>\n S\u00f6z, sana s\u0131ms\u0131k\u0131 sar\u0131laca\u011f\u0131m.<\/p>\n Yazd\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7antas\u0131na koyarken y\u00fcz\u00fc g\u00fcld\u00fc. K\u00fcsm\u00fc\u015fl\u00fckleri, k\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131, hatalar\u0131 ve hesab\u0131 masada b\u0131rakt\u0131; ad\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 yumu\u015fak\u00e7a atarak uzakla\u015ft\u0131. G\u00f6zden kaybolana kadar \u0131l\u0131k bir meltemin getirdi\u011fi yasemin kokusunu ard\u0131nda b\u0131rakt\u0131.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Bir kelebe\u011fin kanat \u00e7\u0131rp\u0131n\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 duyuyordu. Kalbinin hassasiyetini bir kez daha yoklad\u0131; \u00e7ok incinmi\u015f, k\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. \u201c\u015e\u00fckredecek neyim kalm\u0131\u015ft\u0131 ki\u201d diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyordu g\u00f6zleri bu\u011fulan\u0131rken. 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